Your involvement

You are an equal partner with school, and you should be working together to find ways to support your child and include their views.

The SEND Code of Practice 2015 says:

Where a pupil is receiving SEN support, schools should talk to parents regularly to set clear outcomes and review progress towards them, discuss the activities and support that will help achieve them, and identify the responsibilities of the parent, the pupil and the school. Schools should meet parents at least three times each year. (6.65)

These discussions will need to allow sufficient time to explore the parents’ views and to plan effectively. (6.69)

The views of the pupil should be included in these discussions. This could be through involving the pupil in all or part of the discussion itself, or gathering their views as part of the preparation. (6.70)


Read also SEN Support

Because you know your child best, you will have really important information to share with school, including strategies for how your child can be supported.

Often parents are using strategies without even realising and it can be less confusing for a child where the strategies at home and school are the same. 


When you meet with school you will want to find out:

  • the progress your child has been making and
  • whether the support in place is having the desired impact, and if not,
  • what needs to change

Think about how to frame your questions before you meet with school, some ideas below for how you might talk to school about support strategies...


The relationship between a parent and school can sometimes be tested, for example where there is disagreement about your child's rate of progress or the support they are receiving. 

It will be helpful to talk to school as soon as possible so that you can be reassured about what is happening. It could be that the planned support was not working and school have made some changes that you have not been told about, or maybe a temporary staffing issue due to illness. 

Sometimes staff are working on one of the agreed actions and intend to work on another action later, so as not to overwhelm a child.  

Try to maintain a calm and friendly approach, a positive relationship with school will help your child.

Take a look at the information within our tile 'Raising concerns'.

See also 'SEN Support'